Today, 11 years married. Would you like to know the secret to "being able to
stay married over a decade and be happy?", or how about "how to have great sex and stay married for over a decade?" Well, so would I! If I could find just a few people that have been married, oh, lets see, probably over 35 years. I figure by then they know the in and outs and everything in between, being happy, staying married and can smile and say "we have a great sex life, or even we still have sex."
Today, has been one of the worst days. When it comes to me, my family can be extremely demanding, my mom and son probably, (definitely, my son) I had to think on that for a moment. If I do not do what they are asking or telling me to do, my mom will start swearing like a parrot. My son, mental illness struck his life at 22 and stole his identity and he isn't the same man at all! I tried to explain today to my son, he was asking me if I would do something for him (it happens daily) and I said, I really am not having the best of days and it is our wedding anniversary. He said oh, well happy Anniversary anyways as I was asking you, I just wanted to scream.
So, yesterday, no one really knew it was our anniversary it was just another day to most. As you can see re: my son & mom.
As for my husband, he had recently bought some jewelry off a gentleman that had his grandmother pass on and no one wanted the jewelry so my husband bought the package. He saved out a few and last night presented to me a tear drop diamond necklace. It was nice, but I know, he did not go shopping and pick this out on his own. I myself didn't get him a card or gift, the way our life has been the past 3 years, I had know idea what to do and to buy a card that has all this mushy stuff in it and you wouldn't say 1/2 of what is in that card, so why bother.
He fell asleep on the couch and I went upstairs to bed and that was how the anniversary went, and I never did find out how those other people in the world makes their marriage work and last, I can tell you. I do know from past experiences that patience, honesty, communication and love goes along ways.
